Anonymous Confession

Hi, I just really need to open up and ask for advice. I'm currently in a relationship with a seminarian for about 5 months now. It all started naturally—we were just friends; church mates rather, then slowly grew closer. When he courted me, I honestly hesitated because I knew from the start that he’s a seminarian. I was afraid of what that would mean for us. But then, he showed me true love—sincere, patient, and consistent. He made me feel full in ways I didn’t expect, and eventually, I said yes.

Right now, we’re really trying to be patient and understanding with each other. Even though we barely talk sometimes because of his schedule and mine, whenever we do, it just clicks. Still, the thought lingers. I know I should trust him and our relationship, but part of me wonders: if we’re really meant for each other, maybe destiny will find its way in the future, when the timing is right.

Another thing is that Enzo has an image in our parish—he’s popular, smart, and respected. I don’t want to risk that. Sometimes I get scared thinking, what if someone sees us or catches us together? I don’t want people to judge him or think badly of him, because I know how dedicated he is.

To clarify, we’re both well-behaved and we know our limitations—that’s why we don’t engage in intimacies. We respect each other deeply, and I don’t ever want him to be caught in something that could add to the reason of choosing me over his vocation. I want his decisions for his path to be pure ones, whether it’s priesthood or a life with me.

It hurts to even think of leaving him. I don’t want to, and he doesn’t either—he shows me every day that he’s holding on and trusting me. That’s why I’m so torn, because deep down I know his vocation makes things complicated, yet my heart is already committed.

That’s why I’m reaching out. I hope you can give me some guidance or even just assurance on how I can handle this situation with honesty, love, and faith in God’s will. Thank you.